Sunday, March 29, 2009

Week #12 - That is NOT my job!

Sorry for the missed post last week, but I was having a wonderful time attending a cousin's wedding.  Here we go for this week!

With society's many views on what 'should' or 'should not' happen in the home, I'm curious about what you all think about the roles people develop in their family.  Are their peacemakers?  "War mongers"?  What about the role of your Mom and Dad?  Which works outside the home, if not both?  How do you think things got this way?  This last question about how things developed the way that they did in your family is really the meat of what I'm trying to get at this week.

4 comments:

  1. I was raised in a very traditional family where dad went to work and mom raised the kids. Mom did start working again when I was in third grade(no kids were left at home), but she taught at my school so I actually thought that was pretty cool. My parents modeled that you help each other and take care of your own space, basically clean up your own mess and help others clean up theirs. As a mother of two small children it is no surprise that I feel overworked as it is. Our roles feel a little more modernized. I expect my husband to help out more around the house (expect is the key word). I work part time as a teacher and he works three 12 hour shifts a week. As a result, he is home with the kids while I work. It actually is kind of funny how it works out. He plays Mr. Mom while I go off to make the big bucks as a part time teacher. I don't know if this answers your questions entirely. I hope so! :)

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  2. I'm not too sure what kind of role I played in my home growing up, other than that of a pain in my parents' butt! As for everyone else, ours was fairly traditional. Dad worked outside of the home, Mom worked at home and took care of us kids. I think Mom and Dad's roles came from what they learned growing up, as well as their activity in the Church. I think the roles played by us kids - big brother/sister, baby of the family, etc. - all kind of come about naturally.

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  3. My wife stays at home with our boys, while I go to school and work. It all started when we had our first. I could not adequately feed him so obviously it was Tiffany's responsibility. Since then I have learned that I am not patient enought to be a good at home dad. I am working on it obviously, but I can't hardly make it through a Saturday without putting myself in timeout for a while.

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  4. Yeah Brittany! Good luck with your book. Here is my input on family roles. I think that every family has a basic groundwork regarding roles, but that above that "groundwork" is house that is constantly under construction, hopefully being remodelled rather than demolished. What I mean by groundwork is very gender related. Men are very natural providers (workers) and women are very natural nurturers (homemakers). What I mean by the "house being under construction" is that personality differences and family events and family additions can temporalily set up additional roles. For example, my husband (provider/worker) will go into work late some mornings to let me (nurturer/homemaker) sleep in as we have a brandnew baby boy in the family, and he is the current cook for all our meals, instead of just breakfast as before the baby. This is a temporary construction. Or, when my family moved when I was 10, my siblings and I began playing together more (on account that the move made us all friendless for a time). Once again, a temporary adjustment.

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