Sunday, January 25, 2009

Week #4 - Sibling Rivalry?

Since most of you posted that you have siblings, I want to get a little deeper into that idea.  Do any of you have a sibling that you're closest to?  What about one with whom there's always been a bit of friction?  Both?  Since the beginning of mankind (assuming you accept the Adam and Eve philosophy), siblings haven't always gotten along so well.  What do you think has changed, if anything?  Feel free to comment on any or all of the previous concepts.

9 comments:

  1. I think the friction between siblings comes from competition. We are competing for attention from parents, extended family, and friends. I think that's a big reason that siblings become closer once they've moved away from one another. That being said, we definitely had our "touching" moments. My sister was always the one I turned to when I needed a shoulder to cry on or some advice. She's older than I am so I felt she was wise. :) My younger brother usually was there for a laugh. As much as we laughed though, we fought. We often got into screaming matches and sometimes it seemed that the meaning of our existence was to make the other one's life miserable. I think it was partly because we were so close in age.

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  2. I just never liked it when my older brother acted like he was that much better/smarter than me. True or not, it caused me to irritate him any chance I got.

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  3. I only have one brother. He's four years older than me, and we really didn't compete. He had his friends; I had mine. He was gone to college by the time I started high school. Occasionally as we were growing up, he would taunt me, just because my reaction was entertaining to him. Even though we weren't close in the "hanging out together" kind of way, I always knew that if I ever needed anything, he was there. In some ways, he was more of a dad to me than my dad was. He pulled me out of snowbanks, fixed my treehouse, bailed me out at parties so our folks wouldn't catch us, taught me to play sports like a boy, and how to change the oil in my car. As adults, we are still somewhat distant, but now, I find that he calls on me more often for help...mostly computer stuff (I'm kind of a geek like mcewen16).

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  4. Family is the hardest relationships that we will have in this life. We are put with siblings who grow up with the same parents and same rules as we do and we all turn out so differently. It is almost as if we expect each other to come out completely the same as us. The whole idea of siblings is such a different experience for everyone, yet we all really do experience the same things. The one we get along with or the one that no matter how hard we try, we can't get along with. My younger brother and I are the BEST of friends, but my older brother I couldn't impress worth anything. I remember how shocked my mom was one night as I was bawling in my room because my brother was leaving for a mission and I didn't want him to go. But she thought that I really wanted him to leave due to how we treated each other. Still to this day, I don't talk about a lot of subjects around him because I know I will get shot down. However, with my younger brother... we talk about everything from running, to the Gospel, to menstrual cycles. I don't feel like I have to impress him, but I just feel like I need to be a good example.

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  5. Sibling rivalry......... where do I start....... actually I primarily got along with my brothers and sisters. I come from a blended family of his mine and ours. One of my sisters I can honestly say is one of my bestfriends now. As teenagers she threw a bunk bed ladder at me once. Honestly I do not remember why though. We honestly mostly stuck together though. The sister below me and the one below her are like night and day. They easily irritate one another and can probably barely get through an entire day without a snide remark coming from one or both of them. I believe there is just over 2 years between them. An example of this would be the older one has an aversion to dirt or anything that would ruin her outfit or over an hour of putting herself together in the morning. My other sister would intentionally step on her shoe or something to get dirt on her and WWI will break out.
    Now I have two younger sisters (they are the youngest of our group and are the "ours") There is 10 years between one of them and and about 13 years between the others. I feel motherly towards the one with the 13 year gap. Trying to encourage her to make the right decisions and what not.
    My stepbrothers and I were always friends as teenagers. Really close in age. Always dating my bestfriends. I don't recall ever really arguing with any of them one a one basis.

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  6. This is kind of an unfair question for me since I only have one sibling now but I'd say my sister. When we lived together we used to argue a lot but I think with distance we've learned to appreciate each other. I always loved my brother and wish we had been closer but we also had a tendency to fight about stupid things. We didn't always see eye to eye on things and I found it kind of hard to relate to him with the kind of life he lived. That was one of my biggest regrets after he passed, that I hadn't made more of an effort to improve our relationship.

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  7. I guess my response about my siblings is similar to my response about my parents. I go to specific siblings with specific issues, so I'm close to each one in a different way. I don't think I could claim a 'favorite'. In general though, I've become closer to my siblings as I get older. Funny how that works. You live with them and you take every possible opportunity to get away. You live away from them, and to take every possibility to get back for a visit!

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  8. http://lindsey-leavitt.livejournal.com/ Hey Britty, this is my friend Lindsey's writing blog you may want to check out. Andy told me to get you the address sorry it took so long!

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  9. Thanks, Andy! I'll check it out!

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